Sounds to me like the throttle valve for the egr isn't unplugged and is closing on the highway, mine did this as well, it has to be unplugged with the ME smarty tunes.
I unplugged the egr and it didnt do it on the drive to work, I was under the assumption 14me you didnt have to unplug them. Guess that proved to be wrong. I just need to delete it all, looks too cluttered under the hood.
Thanks to everyone for the help.